Feeling Stuck in a Relationship? (DO THIS TO GET UNSTUCK)

In this article, I want to talk to you about what happens when you feel stuck in your relationship and what you can do to get yourself unstuck. And suppose you're looking to empower yourself with the right skills and knowledge to thrive in your relationship.

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In this article, I will share a question from one of my listeners, and here's what the question says. So, hi Geoffrey. I've been trying to fix my relationship for the past year, and we've tried everything up to this point. I feel so hopeless and stuck, and I don't know what to do anymore to help. I don't remember the exact scenario here of why this person feels stuck or hopeless, but let's try to break this down to understand why they feel stuck and what they can do to start to feel unstuck.

So imagine this box with me whenever you feel stuck in life, in relationships, at work, whatever it is. This box basically represents everything. You know, this is all the tools you have, the mental tools you have to address all the problems you have in your life. But the thing is that outside this box, that's a much bigger circle, and these are all the knowledge and tools you don't have access to right now.

These are the things that you don't even know right now. And so whenever we feel stuck, what is happening here is we are relying on our small, tiny box to solve our problems. But does the package need the right tools for us to solve the issues? So what a lot of people do is they try harder.

They try hard for six months, for a year, but they still need to get them somewhere because they're still using those wrong tools. And what makes things worse here is something called confirmation bias. So, even if you're trying to expand your box here, you might need to extend it correctly. So back to the circle example again, all this stuff that is outside the box is things that you're not familiar with or that you're not comfortable with that, you downright disagree with sometimes. But because there's confirmation bias, we tend to only listen to advice or expand our tools in a way that makes sense to our box right now.

There are so many times when someone comes to me for advice, and basically, my advice forces them to do something uncomfortable or something they're not used to doing. And instantly, they say, Oh no, I can't do that.

That solution needs to be clarified for me. And it's something that I need to familiarize myself with, so I'm not going to take it. So, at that moment, that person has a chance to expand that box, but he's refusing to do so because the expansion is going in a direction where he's not familiar. And so what many people do is just suck in all this information that they currently agree with or that makes sense to them today. And so they either need to expand this box, or they're not really expanding it.

They're filling their box with the same information and old stuff they've believed all this time. And so again, people might think that they're researching, they're, they're educating themselves, but really all they're doing is just filling their box with more of the same tools, thinking that it will be better. So people will keep trying harder and harder and harder, but it doesn't get them anywhere. And that's why they feel stuck: they're using the tiny little box to solve their problem.

I love this quote by Albert Einstein that says we can't solve problems by using the same thinking we used when we created them. So understand that if you want to solve their problem, you can rely on something other than the same thinking that you've been depending on today to solve their future problems. What you know today who you are, can only get you to where you are today, but it could be better at getting you to where you want to be.

And so there are really four types of people in this world.

• The first type is people who don't know, and the second type of person is the people who don't know.
• I don't know. The third type of people are those who don't actually know but think they know; they think they're brilliant, which is very dangerous.

That's the most dangerous one. The fourth kind is the people who know they don't know and seek out answers. And so you want to be the fourth person here and avoid it at all costs.

The other three here, so a lot of people coming to me and saying, for example, Hey Jeff, I feel stuck. Then I asked him, Well, what have you tried? 

Whathaveyou did?

And I said, I've tried everything, and I'm like, you've tried everything. You've tried all these infinite everything. Come on. What have you tried?

Right?

And they say, Oh, I've tried a, B, C, and I'm like, dude, that's four things. You've attempted to do four things and have yet to try everything. Only when you admit that you don't know what you don't know and haven't really tried everything yet can you open your mind to exploring new possibilities?

There are two things you can do to get yourself unstuck. So, number one is you must humble yourself and open your mind to something you're uncomfortable with or unfamiliar with that you often don't agree with. I repeat this because whenever you have this box, and you have this broader circle that you haven't even explored yet, the things in those wider circles are the exact things that you will not agree with and will feel very uncomfortable with.

Then, you cannot comprehend what you don't understand right now. But know that those things that you are very uncomfortable with and against are the exact things you need to fix your problems. Because the existing tools you have today need to be set to solve your problems.

So you need different kinds of tools.

So it's not just about research and gathering information here; you have to pick the correct information to help you expand your horizon, different kinds of information to broaden your horizon. The second thing you should do is keep going until you find that thing that cracks the code. So I've worked with many couples, and most of them come in saying, you know what?

I've tried everything. I've tried so many years of therapy; I've tried reading so many books, but nothing works. And they're convinced that something needs to be fixed. But then we start working together, tweak their process, and give them a few mindset shifts. Once they get these few mindset shifts and really get unstuck, new mindset shifts and new insights might be complex for them.

They might be very uncomfortable for them.

It might be unfamiliar to them, but that's precisely the point. The point is that from familiar stuff to uncomfortable stuff to different things is the exact mindset shift you need to get you unstuck, get results, and get pointed in the right direction, but never give up because it just takes a few mindset shifts. 

You need A few things to get you unstuck and bring back that hope. And once you find this one, two, or three things, all those feelings of hopelessness will melt away. And if you're looking for a resource that can help you get unstuck in your relationship, then you want to get access to my four-day training series and this four-day training series. We'll teach you the foundations and the first steps to fix and rebuild your relationship from the ground up.

So, if you're interested in that four-day training series, click the link in the description box below this article. Suppose you have other questions or other concerns about your relationship that you want to address. In that case, you can also join our Facebook group to post your questions, get expert advice, and tell us what you are currently stuck in? 

What is some issue in your relationship that you're facing that is really making you feel hopeless and stuck? 

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